"And the Lord God called unto Adam, and said unto him, Where art thou? And he said, I heard thy voice in the garden, and I was afraid, because I was naked; and I hid myself.
And he said, Who told thee that thou wast naked? Hast thou eaten of the tree, whereof I commanded thee that thou shouldest not eat? And the man said, The woman whom thou gavest to be with me, she gave me of the tree, and I did eat"
~ Genesis 3:9-12
The first Adam blamed his wife for his fall and he ended up judged and condemned by God (Genesis 3). The last Adam Christ, took the fall for His bride the Church, even though He is blameless. And at the mentioning of His name, every knee bows and all tongues confesses in heaven and on earth that He is LORD (Philippians 2:8-11).
The word LORD, actually means husband. And a relationship can only work when the husband who is meant to be the lord in the relationship is filled with the Spirit of love, which is God (1 John 4:8-11). A woman is only meant to submit herself to a man that is submissive to the LORDSHIP of Christ who is the King of kings and LORD of lords (Ephesians 5:22-33). A man who is not submissive to the LORDSHIP of Christ is incapable of loving his wife selflessly in line with the ordained loving standards of God. A man who as mere flesh is outside of love, which is Christ revealed will only end up causing extreme discomfort to his household body that, he considers himself as head, lord and authoritarian ruler over. The flesh by nature is selfish, abusive, oppressive, obsessively controlling and blame centred. Therefore, it is impossible for a relationship to work if the man that is meant to be the head and lord in the relationship is a fleshy first Adam type who is selfishly blame focused and not selflessly love centred.
The old Adamic fleshy nature is a warfare centred nature and as a result, it can never produce peaceful outcomes. Due to old Adamic nature, the world today and particularly the Church arena is packed with several pain stricken internally wounded men and women who simply tolerate each other for religious status quo reasons and not because they genuinely care or love each other. Several women who although appear to be smiling on the outside, are in fact weeping on the inside. To make matters worse, most people in the Church arena who happens to find themselves in abusive relationships, often feels isolated due to lack of proactive support mechanisms for victims of abuse in the Church arena. The attitude of the Church to a great extent towards domestic violence is more or less that of sweeping it under the carpet and pretending no such things occurs. The abusers are also often encouraged with imbalanced flesh motivated sermons, which are masqueraded and presented as a Godly ordained inspired messages for maintenance of order and line of authority in the homes of people that, are supposedly in the body of Christ. And to top it all, the abused victims are usually made to carry the extra burden of having to pretend that everything is perfectly okay at the home front in order to fit in with man made abusive traditions in the Church arena that are made to appear as Godly ordained rules and governing authority for relationships. Sadly, due to flesh centred leaders and satanic influence, the Church arena that is meant to represent God's embassy of love on earth and as such, a place of refuge for the oppressed and an arena of healing for the broken hearted has turned out to be a breathing ground for wicked abusive oppressive spirits to thrive in.
God as love remains forever a God of holy and perfect relationships. And as a God of relationships, He created us for peaceful relationships and not for fleshy centred warfare oriented relationships. We are born into relationships and conceived out of relationships. But relationships in reality sense can only work if it is rooted and centred in God as love and not in the flesh, which is anti-God who is love itself. A relationship rooted and centred in the flesh can only lead to an outcome of hurt and pain and not the anticipated outcome of peace and heartfelt comfort, that people expect from their relationships. And when fleshy centred relationships between a man and a woman goes wrong, the unnoticed victims in most cases are the innocent children who happens to be born into the line of fire.
Relationship as the essence of life itself can either break you apart or mould and help you to be all that God has created you to be. A marital relationship for instance that, is formulated and rooted in the flesh will not only break you apart into pieces, but will most definitely turn out to be a terrible hindrance and obstacle in the way of you fulfilling your God given assignment and purpose in life. Marriage is meant to be a holy union of peace and not a padlock that locks you in a bitter dead end so called wedlock. If the wedding is locked in sin and centred in the flesh, then the outcome of the union is bound to be bitter and painful and not the sweet pleasure the parties to the marriage anticipated it will materialise before agreeing to the marital union. Therefore, it is important for those who are yet to be burnt by the fire of relationships to seek God's face carefully and not just jump into any kind of relationships with a supposedly Christian man or woman. Ladies, please seek God to give you a partner that has the last Adam Christ indwelling in him. Any choice made in the flesh is definitely a wrong one. It is in fact better for you to stay single than to just rush into a blame oriented warfare centred relationship out of desperation for a partner. And men, please seek Christ and die to self so you can be the man, husband and father God made you to be. It is actually Godly glorifying for a man as the head to take responsibility for his wife and family. There is no honour, peace or joy in abusing or endlessly blaming the one that is meant to be flesh of your flesh and bone of your bone for everything that appears to be wrong with your life. Taking the blame for your relationship and family affair and standing in position of responsibility is in itself a demonstration of power that commands much respect from he entire family body your are meant to be head and lord over. And ladies, when you come across God's chosen Christlike lord for your life, cherish and humble yourself before him and not humiliate him out of flesh arrogance, so that God who is LORD over all will favour you in all aspects of your life.
Pastor Olabisi was a mother, Senior Pastor, Evangelist, Prophet,Teacher, Psalmist, Author, Writer, Publisher and a Housing Practitioner.
She set up Encouraged by God as a means of encouraging and strengthening the faith of Christians everywhere.
Lived and died in Christ, 06 October 2016, aged 49 years old.